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Running, Wandering…or Both?
Enough (pronoun); As much or as many as required; to the required degree or extent.
I know I’m not the only one when I say I’ve doubted many aspects around my life, most notably my career and pathway to my purpose; my abilities, my dreams, even myself….
While I’m sure there are plenty of articles and columns out there around being enough, I want to take some time to dive deeper into the kind of “enough” needed on a daily basis (without sounding like I’m giving some motivational speech).
“Our client base was extensive, our culture was buzzing, our offices were more beautiful than my one bedroom apartment…it was like I worked for Runway magazine”
Let’s rewind back to September 2013. I had just turned 23 and had a “grab the world by the cojones” mentality after joining the working world. I landed my first official entry level job at a huge PR company and thought I had made it in life. Our client base was extensive, our culture was buzzing, our offices were more beautiful than my one bedroom apartment…it was like I worked for Runway magazine (that’s the fashion magazine in “The Devil Wears Prada” just in case you live under a rock). I felt that I had landed the perfect job. Plot twist; I had the shock of my life to find that:
a) it was a pretty cut-throat environment
b) it was super clicky, made even worse because I didn’t own the latest threads from Topshop and Zara and
c) my level of experience meant that I was the weakest link in my team, which led to me being let go.
LET.GO? I remember my mind racing with so many questions while I sat in the glass-walled conference room with my manager telling me it was my last day. I ran home as fast as I could, wishing I could suck back the tears that were forming in my eyes, wondering what had gone terribly wrong. I was crushed and in my ultra dramatic manner, I thought the world around me was ending (I know, so young; so naive). In short I was “too junior” and didn’t have enough experience. That was absurd – I had it all figured out… But then again, did I? Life has a funny way of teaching you lessons.
So what’s the point of this post?
I’m sharing this story with you because despite the growing pains of adulting, there will always be times when you’re told that you don’t have enough of this or enough of that…..but sometimes you have to be brave enough to ignore those voices and critics and just chase your dreams RELENTLESSLY. I obviously found numerous jobs since that day and can look back and laugh on that experience in my current state of security. At the time it was a hard pill to swallow, but, this is where your resilience comes into play. You will fall many times in this life and things will take a complete left when you least expect it; in the midst of the storm it may seem like everything around you is failing… If you’re reading this and you’re currently experiencing this, you just have to remember why you started in the beginning and keep going. Don’t ever stop dreaming and don’t ever let someone talk you out of running after them.
I decided to write this post especially for my dreamers who are still discovering what exactly it is that you were placed here to do (like me). I have some simple advice (that I’m living by) that will hopefully help you;
- It’s OK to experiment. Try out different things that you enjoy doing. It may change but that’s OK! That is what this exercise is all about. Nothing else.
- Stay open-minded; you never know what you could be called to do. As a Christian it’s important to stay in the will of God and allow Him to direct your steps and trust the process (and hunnay I know this ain’t easy sometimes…or are you too sanctified to give me an “Amen”?)
- Use your time wisely. I once read an article that talked about what you do after your 9-5 could define your future 9-5…Just.Wow.
- Don’t stop until you find your special sauce! It will be so worth it. Quick testimony: my husband is living proof of tireless sacrifice in the pursuit of your dreams (shouts to you baby!). He worked in countless jobs that some would consider to be “beneath” him but the moment he left his job to pursue his music career full-time (which was super risky) was WORTH IT. Just hold on and it will come – only to those who chase after it. Everyone has a gift – remember that.
With that said, there’s only one condition. When you do find that thing (not Lauryn Hill’s thing) go for it. You can kinda want great things to happen and can kinda feel like putting the sacrifice in. If you do that you’ll kinda get those results. I’ve recently finished reading #Girllboss by Sophia Amoruso, founder and CEO of NastyGal, and it set off a fire inside of my belly to be just that – a #GirlBoss. *Shameless plug here*
I’ll leave you with these gems:
“Abandon anything about your life and habits that might be holding you back. Learn to create your own opportunities. Know that there is no finish line; fortune favors action. Race balls-out toward the extraordinary life that you’ve always dreamed of, or still haven’t had time to dream up. And prepare to have a hell of a lot of fun along the way.”
– Sophia Amoruso, #GirlBoss
“There are secret opportunities hidden inside every failure.” (this is advice for along the way).
– Sophia Amoruso, #GirlBoss
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