Back in 2008 I moved to Toronto to  further my education. Toronto is a melting pot of races and cultures as many have migrated here. Almost 70% of the people you encounter are a blend of two races resulting in a biracial individual. Some have more complex mixes with both parents being biracial. Due to the high level of multiracial people in such a small proximity, naturally, when meeting someone who doesn’t visually reflect a certain ethnicity it’s typical to ask, “Whats your background?”

I had never experienced anything of this nature before, because in Bermuda there are so many mixtures, but if you’re black–> you’re black. It’s really that simple. I had never been classified or even told for that matter, that I resemble other races. When I asked how they had come to this conclusion their reasons were either the shape of my eyes or the texture of my hair. Huh?! The eyes I can understand, but the hair? So Black people can’t have soft hair? Is curly hair a foreign notion to black people? Are we unable to grow our hair beyond a certain length? Funnily enough I got this response from other Black people.

I stumbled upon this meme online and it registered with me so strongly because it’s something that I’ve considered heavily for a while now.


I remember being so confused as to why many people in the city clung so tightly to all these races in their blood line that were in fact SO FAR down the line. It actually used to annoy me. Especially having Portuguese in my blood line as well as Caucasian but being more than okay with saying “I’m Black.” This is just my opinion but if both your parents are recognised as Blacks then you’re Black. No?

It used to annoy me so much because I always wondered “what’s wrong with being just Black?!” Black is strong, powerful and above all of that Black is BEAUTIFUL. Now, this isn’t to suggest that other races aren’t because truthfully we’re all created equal. But if you are what you are, why hide that? Brainwashing has obviously occurred in the Black community forcing us to believe that if we’re multiracial, we’re more appealing. That somehow if your great great grandmother’s half sister  was half Caucasian and an 8th Indian that makes you more exotic than the next individual. Like really? Come on. Many can argue this way of thinking was birthed in the era of slavery but honestly we must elevate our minds beyond this.

Don’t get me wrong, identifying your heritage is great! However, in doing so don’t forget to celebrate ALL of you, not just the parts of you that are seemingly “better.” Don’t equate all of your beauty to a very faint “touch” of another race and neglect what possibly makes up the majority of your DNA. That’s like a slap in the face to our Creator. We are all BEAUTIFULLY and wonderfully made with no errors! Accept who you are, fully, and love on yourself A LOT.

To my Black men: don’t you ever for a second forget who and where you come from. Preference is fine, and you fall in love with who you fall in love with. But purposely choosing to be with someone because they’re “less Black” or not Black at all is an insult to your mother and all of your ancestors.

To my Black women: don’t choose him so your child’s hair can be “nice”– what ever that is, and so their skin can be light. That’s ridiculous. Let’s embrace who we are, in all of our thick hair, full lipped, wide hipped, large nose beauty. Last time I checked others were buying these features any way! *Sips Tea*

Your skin colour and physical features do not define your heart. Your character does! How about we spend more time making that more appealing.

How do you feel about this? Has society pushed us away from our blackness?

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With all this mixed talk, why not add some print mixing just for fun :p!

Sweater:Zara, Dress:French Connection, Hat (Toque):J.Crew, Boots:Steve Madden

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  1. I believe it has, but I have hope for us as a society especially with this recent natural hair wave , which I hope will be long lasting and not just a trend.
    With black women embracing their natural hair, I feel that other black women are able to see that hair textures are not subjected and confined to color. Also, we are able to embrace whatever God has gifted us with by just becoming comfortable in our own skin without fear of being ridiculed .
    I’m very dark and all my life have had to deal with people asking if I was mixed or my hair real because my skin is dark and ‘yet’ I have very long down-to-my but wavy Indian looking hair.
    I had lots of insecurities to the point where I actually wished I was lighter skinned so I actually used to let my hair, and the perceived praise I received because of it, get to my head.

    But after a lovely renewing of the mind and enlightenment of who I am, I now fight against what the world pushes on me and even how I think of others. Black people are stunningly beautiful. Sometimes I find myself staring because I’m just admiring , then I have to quickly look away because I know how Bermudians get lol, probably think I’m weird or being pokey.

    But my parents always made me repeat after them from the time I entered primary school “I am a strong black woman”. I didn’t understand back then and found it annoying, but now I know they were preparing me to face the world and its philosophies. My mom still asks me every time I get my hair straightened ‘are you still embracing your natural curl?’ because she knows the struggle I had embracing my wild hair, and self image as a whole. I’m not afraid to cut it short, or wear it straight, or out in a blowout fro without having to perfectly define each curl so that the world can see that I’ve got some type of exotic blood in me, thus making me feel better about myself. Nope. I’m free. He who the son sets free is free indeed.
    Free from the patterns of this world.

    Check out this vid.

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